About

Therapy for the LGBTQ community in SFAbout You

You may have been struggling with something for a long time, or maybe the problem is new. You have already thought about it a lot and maybe you have talked about it with friends and/or family, or even with a therapist, but it is still there. It doesn’t feel easy to call a therapist or to try therapy again, but you are at a place where you don’t want to feel so alone with this and you are willing to give therapy a try.

It might feel overwhelming to think about how you are going to find the right person to talk to, but you have some ideas about what you are looking for: You want to work with someone who takes the time to get to know you, to understand how you see the world, and how you got to the place you are at. You would love a quick fix, but you know that it took you a while to get here and it may take some time to get to where you would like to be. You want therapy to feel like a real experience with a real person, and you don’t want to be looking over at someone who is barely nodding at you and muttering “uh huh” when you speak. A little humor wouldn’t be a bad thing, either!

About My Approach to Psychotherapy

My approach to therapy  is warm, relational, and genuine.  I love including humor in my work, when appropriate, and I do my best to leave psychobabble at the door. Although listening forms the core of my work, I do more than just listen: I am engaged and interactive, offering ideas and support for looking at your life in new ways. I can help you look beyond the obvious and find ways to change the things that can be changed, as well as find compassion and understanding for the things that may not be changeable. The longer I have been a psychotherapist, the more respect I have for the value of depth work — psychological work that includes looking at your history, culture, family, and other influences that have shaped your conscious and unconscious motivations for who you are and how you view the world.

About My Psychotherapy Influences:

I am influenced by a number of theoretical approaches, including attachment, relational, psychodynamic, and psychoanalytic, as well as by Buddhist mindfulness and current research in neuropsychology. When I work with couples, my theoretical influences also include Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I am interested in what is going on for you now, but I know that who you are and what is going on for you is strongly impacted by many factors. In every case, my approach is always tailored to what makes sense for you and for the issues you want to work on. Most importantly — and the research supports this — the connection between us is the most critical component of our work together.

My work is guided by my belief that we are influenced not only by our families and by our life experience, but also by the fact that we live in a complex, rapidly changing world and are members of a larger political and social culture. 

About My Experience:

In addition to my private practice, I have supervised interns and served on the Education Committee at The Boulder Institute for Psychotherapy and Research in Boulder, Colorado and have chaired the intern support committee for the San Francisco Chapter of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (SFCAMFT).  I have been a group supervisor at The Pacific Center and at The Women’s Therapy Center , both in Berkeley, an individual supervisor for Queer Lifespace in SF, and a mentor for SFCAMFT.

I have conducted trainings on the topic of working with gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning people at Pacific Center, Notre Dame de Nemur University in Belmont, California, and at Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco. I regularly attend seminars, lectures, and workshops related to the field of psychotherapy and psychoanalysis, participate in study and reading groups, and I am a member of numerous Bay Area professional organizations including The Northern California Society for Psychoanalytic Psychology, The San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis, The Self and Relational Psychoanalysis Colloquium, and SFCAMFT.

About My Background:

I am licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist in both the State of California (MFC 45402) and the State of Colorado (MFT-836). My professional training and experience includes completion of the three-year post-graduate training program in psychodynamic psychotherapy at The Psychotherapy Institute in Berkeley, California, working with elementary school children as a school therapist, serving as a therapist in a community counseling center, and working in private practice.

Prior to becoming a psychotherapist, I spent many years working for both large and small companies, and I have been the owner of a small tech consulting business. I have a deep appreciation for the challenges that each of these different environments can present, as well as for the difficulty of balancing work with family and personal responsibilities. This practical, real-world experience is at the core of my work as a psychotherapist.